by Brené Brown
How to doesn’t work — we know to have the difficult conversations
We live in a culture of never enough — not relevant enough is the biggest cause for shame
Narcissism — the shame based fear of being ordinary
The problem: the first thing we think when we wake up is we didn’t get enough sleep and the last thing we think about is we didn’t get enough done
3 characteristics of scarcity cultures:
Get in the arena — you’re gonna get kicked around but that’s the only way you'll grow
Social change is 1 million acts of kindness, cultural change is 1 million subversive acts of resistance We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known and when we honor the spiritual;l connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. It is not something give or get it is something that we nurture and grow — a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists in each one of them. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves
Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self acceptance — we only truly feel like we belong when we are our authentic selves
Vulnerability: show up and let yourself be seen
Belonging mantra: don't shrink, don't puff up
To experience love and belonging you must believe you are worthy of it
Everyone wants to belong and feel loved
How much we know ourselves is important but how well we treat ourselves is the most important
Vulnerability is at the core of every positive emotion: joy, love, empathy, etc